It's difficult to ascribe blame to any party, really. At the very least - that is what I think. Some native Irian think the fae are always blameless.

Yet... the fae do not understand us, do not think or feel like us - and we approach with this... concept of society, of propriety, of morality. Certainly our ideas are 'we are kind and polite and therefore deserve the same in return', but perhaps to the fae, they think 'it is a rainy day, therefore we are rude!' and it makes just as much sense to them as what we think makes sense to us! ( he gives a gusty sigh and shakes his head. )

I apologize. Fae are difficult to understand. I certainly didn't when I first immigrated. ( he offers a sundrop cake. ) Would you like a piece?